My friend is Having a affair with my other friends husband
- Asked By: madcow
- Category: Cheating, Divorce, Marriage, Relationship
This is  about a friend whose having an affair with our mutual friend’s husband. I found out about it and confronted my friend who I saw with this guy driving about 4 months ago and she admitted it. It’s been going on for 1 year now. It’s very complicated, but one of the ladies (Our friend) said she knows her husband is having an affair but with who she didn’t know, and she’s about to go crazy. She’s depressed as hell. I’ve known this female friend for years, but never trusted her husband. I told her this when they married, but she said he’s a good guy. I never thought so and am going to be proven right unfortunately. But how do I tell one friend our mutual friend is the “ONE.” Both have families (The married friend just had a baby 8 months ago). I KNOW the children will be hurt behind this, and both families will be torn apart. This is not something I relish doing. Telling one of my best friends that her husband is having an affair with a friend we share in common. I’m praying that God helps me make sure I do the right thing, and that this situation turns out the best way a situation like this one can. This is going to hurt big time, but I have no choice but to tell my friend the truth while at the same time spill the beans on another friend.
Vince Rhett on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
Stay out!! You dont wanna be caught up in it when God shines the light on that situation.
Andrea' NaeNae Mcdonald on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
wow thats difficult bc tellin cud put u in the middle of a nasty situation but keeping quiet is not showing loyalty to ur friend…hmm honestly if it was me i wud tell my friend thats havin the affair to tell it and if she didnt then i wud only bc i wud HOPE and pray someone i considered a friend wud tell me!
Randy Davis on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
Oh my lawdy. I’m staying out of that . Young and the Restless epidsode huh
Lester Michael Duncan Rambus on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
Girl It’s the sister code of honor there cause if it was you?
Malisa L. Smith on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
It depends on which friend. I would say tell! If its one of my close friends. I could care less about the fall out. IM TELLING!!! Whats done in the dark will come to LIGHT!! Yeah im the Flashlight!! But if its someone I m just associated with then… I didnt see nothing.. I dont even know what you talking about.. You know the FEDS listening (What Money) in my lil Wayne voice.
Andrea' NaeNae Mcdonald on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
Im surprised at how many women wud keep somethin like that from ur BEST friend wow!
Prima Donna on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
As Much As I Would Not Want To Be In The Middle Of This Drama… I Would Tell The Friend, That I’m Telling Our Friend About Her Affair With Her Husband. But, You Stand To Lose One or Both Friendships. Whether You Get Involved or Not… Friendships Will Be Lost When Shit Hit The Fan.
Nichelle Cns on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
This is difficult to stay out of cause when your friend finds out.. is she going to find out that you knew and didnt say anything? I would assist her in finding out who… so your telling but indirectly. Give her pointers about GPS and other ways she can possibly catch him in the act. There is no way you can stay out of it now.. if you wanted to stay out of it when you saw them together….you would have kept on walking.
Monie Mulunde on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
Wen it comes to ths, its very complicatd Kissy. Ths senerio happnd to me, my husbnd wid ma best friend we were so tight, no 1 told me in the office and everbdy knew. The moment i knew it was terrible and hated ma coworkers, jus prepare yourself 4 the worst, tell her
Aijalon Mims on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
I wouldn’t tell directly….If I new the frequented a “spot” often I would tell her to go there! <—-thats not telling cause I didn't say why she should go
Brenton M Graham on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
This is indeed a hard one. Lets see tell and be know as the rat. Stay silent and be know as the one who isn’t real. Wow the titles we give to others. Lets see how important are these friends. I would confront the one having the affair. Let them know they have two choices. Both will lead to something but which one is best for all of our sake.
Andrea' NaeNae Mcdonald on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
truth shall set u free ALWAYS! be real stay loyal!
Bronx Tuwhangai on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
Either way your fucked so do whatever you conscience says
Alley N Wonderland on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
I would stay out of it. What’s done in the dark will eventualy surface.. In the meantime pray for your married friend.
Nomfundo Precious Mabaso on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
My 2nd thot,tel yo frnd so dat d ada frnd stp bng bitchy
AsK-Kissy.com on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
I would send a blind email, or a blind note, pay someone else to call her or email her and tell her, but nope, directly tell her , I’m not in it.. Where is Bennit!!
Etheldra Holmes-Mays on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
If shes yur bf u should let her knw,cuz her bf will find it hard to ever believe her ever again. She shuld meet her where she knw their going to b n than everything will b “out n the open”.
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This is  about a friend whose having an affair with our mutual friend’s husband. I found out about it and confronted my friend who I saw with this guy driving about 4 months ago and she admitted it. It’s been going on for 1 year now. It’s very complicated, but one of the ladies (Our friend) said she knows her husband is having an affair but with who she didn’t know, and she’s about to go crazy. She’s depressed as hell. I’ve known this female friend for years, but never trusted her husband. I told her this when they married, but she said he’s a good guy. I never thought so and am going to be proven right unfortunately. But how do I tell one friend our mutual friend is the “ONE.” Both have families (The married friend just had a baby 8 months ago). I KNOW the children will be hurt behind this, and both families will be torn apart. This is not something I relish doing. Telling one of my best friends that her husband is having an affair with a friend we share in common. I’m praying that God helps me make sure I do the right thing, and that this situation turns out the best way a situation like this one can. This is going to hurt big time, but I have no choice but to tell my friend the truth while at the same time spill the beans on another friend.
Vince Rhett on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
Stay out!! You dont wanna be caught up in it when God shines the light on that situation.
Andrea' NaeNae Mcdonald on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
wow thats difficult bc tellin cud put u in the middle of a nasty situation but keeping quiet is not showing loyalty to ur friend…hmm honestly if it was me i wud tell my friend thats havin the affair to tell it and if she didnt then i wud only bc i wud HOPE and pray someone i considered a friend wud tell me!
Randy Davis on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
Oh my lawdy. I’m staying out of that . Young and the Restless epidsode huh
Lester Michael Duncan Rambus on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
Girl It’s the sister code of honor there cause if it was you?
Malisa L. Smith on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
It depends on which friend. I would say tell! If its one of my close friends. I could care less about the fall out. IM TELLING!!! Whats done in the dark will come to LIGHT!! Yeah im the Flashlight!! But if its someone I m just associated with then… I didnt see nothing.. I dont even know what you talking about.. You know the FEDS listening (What Money) in my lil Wayne voice.
Andrea' NaeNae Mcdonald on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
Im surprised at how many women wud keep somethin like that from ur BEST friend wow!
Prima Donna on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
As Much As I Would Not Want To Be In The Middle Of This Drama… I Would Tell The Friend, That I’m Telling Our Friend About Her Affair With Her Husband. But, You Stand To Lose One or Both Friendships. Whether You Get Involved or Not… Friendships Will Be Lost When Shit Hit The Fan.
Nichelle Cns on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
This is difficult to stay out of cause when your friend finds out.. is she going to find out that you knew and didnt say anything? I would assist her in finding out who… so your telling but indirectly. Give her pointers about GPS and other ways she can possibly catch him in the act. There is no way you can stay out of it now.. if you wanted to stay out of it when you saw them together….you would have kept on walking.
Monie Mulunde on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
Wen it comes to ths, its very complicatd Kissy. Ths senerio happnd to me, my husbnd wid ma best friend we were so tight, no 1 told me in the office and everbdy knew. The moment i knew it was terrible and hated ma coworkers, jus prepare yourself 4 the worst, tell her
Aijalon Mims on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
I wouldn’t tell directly….If I new the frequented a “spot” often I would tell her to go there! <—-thats not telling cause I didn't say why she should go
Brenton M Graham on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
This is indeed a hard one. Lets see tell and be know as the rat. Stay silent and be know as the one who isn’t real. Wow the titles we give to others. Lets see how important are these friends. I would confront the one having the affair. Let them know they have two choices. Both will lead to something but which one is best for all of our sake.
Andrea' NaeNae Mcdonald on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
truth shall set u free ALWAYS! be real stay loyal!
Bronx Tuwhangai on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
Either way your fucked so do whatever you conscience says
Alley N Wonderland on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
I would stay out of it. What’s done in the dark will eventualy surface.. In the meantime pray for your married friend.
Nomfundo Precious Mabaso on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
My 2nd thot,tel yo frnd so dat d ada frnd stp bng bitchy
AsK-Kissy.com on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
I would send a blind email, or a blind note, pay someone else to call her or email her and tell her, but nope, directly tell her , I’m not in it.. Where is Bennit!!
Etheldra Holmes-Mays on Facebook
Posted 8 months ago
If shes yur bf u should let her knw,cuz her bf will find it hard to ever believe her ever again. She shuld meet her where she knw their going to b n than everything will b “out n the open”.
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